"Fishbowl Battles? What kind of title is that?" To be up front, this post is about preacher's kids. I have not always been a pastor's daughter, but I have been for about half of my life now. Though I was only 11 when my dad became a pastor, I remember the way it greatly changed my life, and the way I was viewed and labeled. While it has come with some good privileges, it has also come with some very real struggles that the public eye does not always see or understand. The point of this post is to give a little insight to the outsider about some of the struggles a preacher's kid faces. No, this is not to make you feel sorry for anybody, but preacher's kids are commonly labeled and misunderstood. I also understand that a lot of people think preacher's kids have attitudes, are stuck up, and think they're all that. I'm not disagreeing that some have become that way, because I have seen it happen; And that's not okay. But, while some may be that way, others also get put under that label. I have heard things like, "all preacher's kids are brats!" or "I don't really like preacher's kids." I have also been asked in surprise, "You're a pastor's kid?!" I will be addressing preacher's kids directly in this post as well as the outsider who may not understand the fishbowl battles.
I have seen preacher's kids marry the wrong person because they were so desperate to get out of the spotlight and out from under the pressure at their church. Sadly, their marriage ended tragically because they married out of God's will, trying to get away from the life they didn't chose and felt like they couldn't handle anymore. Please don't misunderstand - not all preacher's kids leave God. There are many of them who have turned out to be preachers, preachers wives, and a great blessing to their church. I know a lot of good preacher's kids who really are spiritual leaders, and as a result, some people do get jealous and think that the preacher's kid thinks they're better than everyone else, when they really don't think that. Of course, I'm not excusing any preacher's kids that really are choosing to be stuck up and think they're entitled to everything. Like I said, this is not okay, and I want to challenge preacher's kids to think twice about the words you choose, the things you do, and the way you treat the peers in your church.
Do you view yourself as "better" than them?
Do you think you're more important than them?
You're not. Everybody is important. Just because you have been placed in the fishbowl doesn't mean it's all about you. Don't think you can get away with whatever you want just because your daddy is the preacher.
Philippians 2:5 & 7 - "Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: ........... But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:"
With great privileges come great responsibilities. Preacher's kids: Don't feel like you need to be better than anyone, because you're not better than anyone. Be an example of a servant: care for others and give of yourself. You won't regret living the life of a servant.
Questions and comments are welcomed.